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"I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come..."

Tue, 08 Jan 2013 01:17:50 -0600

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I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.

..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.

“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”

I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away..

..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.

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- David Wong, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person (via coolgrandpa)

Are you trying to tell us something Pie? :)

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dcwomenkickingass: Barbara Gordon Will Call You Out On Your...

Sat, 26 May 2012 16:54:31 -0500

dcwomenkickingass:

Barbara Gordon Will Call You Out On Your Sexist Crap

In today’s Young Justice Batgirl has some thoughts about Nightwing having to explain why all female team is being deployed.

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blinkanditsover: A mouse diced with death when it stole some...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 19:02:07 -0500

blinkanditsover:

A mouse diced with death when it stole some food from under the nose of a leopard at the Santago Rare Leopard Project in Hertfordshire.

Instead of pouncing on the mouse, the 12-year-old African leopard, called Sheena, simply watched as it fed on scraps of meat thrown into its enclosure.

At one stage she tried to nudge the mouse away with her nose, but the mouse carried on eating regardless.

theanimalblog: Cheetah mother Sita shakes off rain as she sits...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 16:59:57 -0500

theanimalblog:

Cheetah mother Sita shakes off rain as she sits with her cubs. Wildlife photographer and Exodus tour guide Paul Goldstein worked alongside the team filming Disney’s African Cats in Kenya, often pinpointing the position of the animals on the Masai Mara.Picture: Paul Goldstein/Exodus / Rex Features

theanimalblog: Freshly shaved alpacas are seen at Alpaca-Land...

Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:04:07 -0500

theanimalblog:

Freshly shaved alpacas are seen at Alpaca-Land farm, in Goeming in the Austrian province of Salzburg. Picture: Kerstin Joensson/AP

Freshly shaved alpacas. Freshly. Shaved. Alpacas.

via dolliecrave I would be that dog owner.

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 17:03:10 -0500

via dolliecrave

I would be that dog owner.

Since I'm going to be home all summer...

Wed, 25 Apr 2012 15:42:17 -0500

Since I’m going to be home all summer, I think I should be as productive as possible.

I am currently considering doing the following:

Take more SCUBA classes to become a dive instructor
Learn Spanish
Learn American Sign Language (to help communicate underwater)
Write a novella (maybe I can turn it into a thesis project?)
Convince my parents to let me bring my car to school

I think this could be a very productive summer.

"Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about..."

Thu, 12 Apr 2012 15:01:56 -0500

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Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.

If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.

If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?

A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.

If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.

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- Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator (via petitefeministe)

I’ll never forgive the people who trolled me on my local craigslist for suggesting that following girls in your car while they are trying to walk home makes them feel threatened and like they are going to be raped and murdered, and MAYBE leaving girls alone in public spaces other than like, bars, parties, and other clearly flirtation-friendly venues would be an awesome thing.

I was called a frigid lesbian and clearly I was teaching all the women in our frigid town my evil, man-hating, sex-negative ways.

(via electric-asherah)

Sadly so very true.

(via jadepichette)

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reluctantteen: same

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reluctantteen:

same

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